Jase noticed his penis was one of the smaller in the bunch as a kid, when he used the communal showers after football and basketball practices. Now, public washing is strictly off limits—he'd rather drive home from the gym in his sweaty clothes and shower in the privacy of his own home. Jase's insecurities about his 3. When he was younger, condoms didn't stay on well, and that made sex more of an anxiety trip than it already was. In a recent bout of obsession, he gathered a "database" of scientific papers on penises and measured himself multiple times a day for several weeks to see how he sized up. Growing up, it shaped him socially, even when his pants were on. Lots of guys can relate. Almost one in five American men are unhappy with the length of their erection, according to a recent study of more than 4, men, and another 15 percent have a problem with their girth. You won't be surprised to learn that the guys who thought their penises fell short had less sex than the penis-proud group. I'm genuinely afraid of everything and everybody alike," says David,
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What makes an exceptionally good dick? To find out, I asked 20 women to share their preferences for the perfect penis. Some foreskin appears a bit saggy and sad. Girth is more important than length — about the thickness of a deodorant can. Taking a really big cock can make things a little slower, so I tend to prefer ones that are slightly shorter and more versatile. The style of penis I prefer is any size or shape, wielded by a confident, enthusiastic partner who is interested in my pleasure, as well as their own. And, I hate baggy foreskins, they make cocks look smaller. I never thought that I would have a preference, but recently I hooked up with someone who still had his skin and it was just odd. However, there are many exceptions.
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I have to say, it felt like I was living inside an episode of Sex and the City. His dick is like a gherkin! Like most women, I carry around my own small-penis story, to be shared at moments precisely like this.
Back in my youth, my love life was a string of rejections, based on lack of confidence in my physical attributes 6ft 4in, reasonably attractive, bright, humorous, caring, but with dangly bits a hamster would be worried about. It was ego-bruising, getting laughed at. Who was I to say no? They were lovely and I felt safe. And, amazingly, they wanted things to continue. It was the most wonderful time — but after four years of a heart-wrenching triangle, it was over. Now here I am, 30 years and a string of uninteresting jobs later, in an unhappy marriage, retired, with dodgy health and my only positive memories being from 35 years ago. What to do? Being laughed at for something as fundamental as the size of your genitalia must have been traumatising. But I do wonder about the accuracy of your description of your penis size?